The Leader Within Embracing Me Time for Clarity and Balance

Leadership is often thought of as making decisions, solving problems, and being constantly on

the go. We associate leaders with action, with a relentless pace. But in my experience, the most

influential leadership moments don’t come as a result of constant activity. They can come from

stillness, from slowing down, and from creating space for yourself.

Some of the most meaningful insights I’ve had about leadership—and life in general—happened

during those rare quiet moments. Whether it’s a walk in nature, a moment of stillness in the

shower, or even sitting on a plane, those pauses away from everything else seem to clear my

mind, giving me the clarity I wouldn’t find otherwise.

The Power of Silence

In today’s world, we’re encouraged to hustle nonstop. We’re told that the more we do, the more

we achieve. But I’ve realized that silence is something we should lean into, not avoid. It’s in

those quiet moments where I’ve been able to:

1. Process and Reflect: There’s so much noise in our lives—so many demands and

things pulling at us. But in silence, I can reflect on what really matters. I can sift through

the clutter of my thoughts and get to what’s important. It’s a chance to process

everything that’s been building up and gain some perspective.

2. Spark Creativity: Creativity doesn’t always come when you force it. Sometimes, the

best ideas happen when we stop trying so hard. When we permit ourselves to pause,

our minds can wander and connect dots in ways we never expected.

3. Recenter and Recharge: I know that balance is essential as a leader. If I don’t check in

with myself, I’ll burn out. Silence allows me to come back to center, to remember why I’m

doing what I’m doing, and to show up as my true, authentic self.

Finding Balance in My Life

Like many people, my life is a juggling act. I’m a coach, a mother, and a professional, so the

demands on my time can sometimes feel overwhelming. I’ve learned that balance doesn’t just

happen—we have to create intentionally. For me, balance comes from what I call “productive

pauses”—moments in my day that are meant to recharge and reconnect with myself.

Here’s what works for me:

1. Morning Walks: I start my day by walking, especially if I can get outside. Walking,

breathing fresh air, and letting my mind wander clears away the fog. During these walks,

I often find the answers to questions lingering in my mind or come up with fresh ideas for

projects I’m working on.

2. Unplugging: We’re all glued to our phones, tablets, and computers. But I’ve found that

stepping away from the screen—even if just for a few minutes—can help me recharge.

Whether journaling, taking a few minutes to enjoy a cup of coffee, or just listening to my

kids laugh, these moments of unplugging give me the space to feel grounded again.

3. Flight Time as Think Time: I’ve discovered that flying is the perfect time to think. It

might sound odd, but the lack of distractions, combined with the hum of the airplane,

somehow gives my mind the space it needs to open up. I’ve had some of my clearest

thoughts during a flight—whether it’s solving a problem or coming up with a new idea.

4. Shower Time: I know it sounds small, but there’s something magical about the shower.

Standing under the warm water, my mind seems to reset. It’s as if all the clutter and

noise of the day wash away, and I’m left with clarity. Often, that’s when my best ideas

seem to come together.

Making “Me-Time” a Priority

One of the hardest lessons I’ve had to learn is that taking time for myself isn’t selfish—it’s

essential. As leaders, we often put everyone else’s needs before our own. We try to show up for

our teams, families, and communities. But if we’re not taking care of ourselves, we’re unable to

show up how we want to. We can’t pour from an empty cup.

Here’s how I make sure “me-time” stays a priority in my life:

1. Scheduling It: I block out time in my calendar, just like I would for any important

meeting. Whether it’s a walk, meditation, or just sitting quietly with a cup of tea, I ensure

I have time to reset and recharge.

2. Setting Boundaries: I’ve learned to communicate when I need uninterrupted time. It’s

okay to refuse requests or pull back from certain responsibilities. I’ve found that when I

protect this time, I’m much more present and effective when I show up.

3. Trying Different Ways to Rest: Not every moment of downtime needs to look the

same. Some days, I might meditate; others, I might spend time doing something creative

like painting or journaling. The key is experimenting with different ways to rest and

finding what works best in the moment.

4. Staying Consistent: Like any good habit, taking time for myself works best when I

commit to it regularly. Even if it’s just a few minutes each day, the small, consistent

moments of rest add up over time.

What “Me-Time” Gives Back

When I prioritize taking time for myself, everything else falls into place. I lead better, I parent

better, and I just live better. These quiet moments aren’t indulgences—they’re investments. By

taking time to rest and recharge, I can better show up as a strong leader and a fully present

person.

I’ve seen the same transformation happen with my clients. When they prioritize their well-being,

their leadership improves, their relationships strengthen, and their energy shifts. The clarity they

gain from caring for themselves extends outward, touching everyone they lead and care for.

The Essence of Leadership

Authentic leadership isn’t defined by our actions alone—it’s shaped by who we are. By allowing

ourselves the space to pause, reflect, and reconnect, we tap into our greatest potential—not just

in terms of ideas but in being the best version of ourselves. These pauses are essential, whether it's a quiet break to recharge, a peaceful walk in the park, or a moment of introspection.

You deserve that time.

What practices help you find balance in your life? Whatever they are, make them a priority. The

leader within you—and those you lead—will reap the benefits.